Finding Myself Again: Questions to Ask When You Feel Lost

There comes a point in life — especially as a mother, a partner, or someone constantly pouring into others — when you realize you’ve been running on autopilot. You give, you serve, you survive… but somewhere along the way, you got lost.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, unsure of who you are outside of your roles, this blog is for you. Healing and rediscovery begin with asking the right questions.

✨ Start Here: Questions to Ask Yourself

These aren't surface-level questions. They're meant to peel back the layers and help you remember you — not the mom, the worker, the caretaker, but the woman underneath it all.

  1. What do I need right now — physically, emotionally, spiritually?

  2. When was the last time I felt truly happy, and what was I doing?

  3. What drains me, and what fills me up?

  4. What am I holding onto that I need to release?

  5. Who am I trying to please, and why?

  6. If fear wasn't holding me back, what would I do differently?

  7. What do I love about myself? (Yes, name at least three things.)

  8. What does being at peace look like for me?

  9. Am I living the life I imagined, or just surviving it?

  10. What version of me am I ready to become?

Take your time with each one. Journal them. Reflect. Let the answers come without judgment.

Here are a few small, consistent practices that can make a big difference:

  1. Schedule time for yourself, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day — and protect it fiercely.

  2. Say no without guilt. You don’t have to explain why your peace matters.

  3. Move your body — dance, stretch, walk. Get out of your head and into the moment.

  4. Speak kindly to yourself — if you wouldn’t say it to your child or best friend, don’t say it to yourself.

  5. Create a “you” playlist, filled with songs that make you feel alive, confident, and calm.

  6. Let go of perfection. Growth is messy. Self-love is not a final destination — it’s a practice.

    ou are more than what you do. You are more than what’s been done to you. Rediscovering yourself is not selfish — it’s sacred. The more connected you are to you, the more deeply you can love and lead those around you.

    This journey back to yourself? It's worth it. And so are you.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

My Story: Beauty in the Broken Places

[Disclaimer: This post contains mentions of abuse. If you or someone you know needs help, please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit  www.thehotline.org .] I thought it was time to share a little more about myself — where I come from, and how I ended up here, writing to you. My life hasn’t been a straight, easy path. I became a mother at just 17 years old. At a time when I needed support the most, I found myself standing alone. My mother was living in another country, and my father — he was never really a part of my life at all. The father of my first child came from a family who treated me like I had "ruined his life." Instead of love and support, I faced judgment, isolation, and shame. For a while, I tried to hold everything together. But the truth was, behind closed doors, life was breaking me apart. Only two years after my child was born, I saw the truth: the man I thought I could build a life with had become abusive. The emotion...
Read more

The Family God Gives Us: The Friends Who Never Left

In a world where friendships often come and go, I’ve been blessed with a few rare gems that have weathered the storms of life with me. These are the friendships that feel like family, the ones that never fade, no matter the distance or the time apart. Whether they’ve been with me through every season or emerged during my hardest moments, these friends have been the ones who’ve held me up, encouraged me, and loved me without conditions. This post is for them — the ones who stayed when everything else seemed to crumble. And for anyone who’s ever felt the warmth of a friend who became so much more. 💛 When life gets hard, you quickly learn who’s really standing beside you. Not everyone who starts with you will stay. Some friends fade quietly when the storms roll in. Some disappear when your journey becomes too heavy for them to carry. And that’s okay — not everyone is meant for every season of your life. But then... there are the rare few. The friends who stay. The ones who show up withou...
Read more

Co-Parenting in Chaos: The Guilt, the Growth, and the Fight to Be Better

Parenting is already hard. Parenting from separate households? It’s a whole different kind of struggle. Especially when you and the fathers of your children don’t see eye to eye — on rules, routines, values, or even basic communication. It feels like I’m constantly pulled in opposite directions, trying to raise my children with consistency and love while navigating conflict, frustration, and misalignment. Sometimes, I sit alone at night thinking about everything I could’ve done differently. I wonder if I’m doing enough, being enough. I carry this quiet guilt — a heavy weight that whispers,  “You can do better… you should be better.”  I replay moments when I lost my patience, when I was too tired to engage, when I let the stress get the best of me. And I hate it. Because deep down, I know I’m capable of more. Of showing up calmer. Of responding instead of reacting. Of setting boundaries, not just for the fathers of my children, but for myself — for my peace. But here’s the trut...
Read more